Frank Grass

I've stood in rooms where every second counted in those moments. Your character -- not rank -- is what guides your decisions. - Frank Grass

General Frank Grass is one of the highest-ranking military leaders of our time. A four-star general appointed by President Barack Obama, he served as the 27th Chief of the National Guard Bureau and was a member of the U.S. Joint Chiefs of Staff -- advising the President, Secretary of Defense, and National Security Council on matters of national security and domestic crisis response. 

What struck me most in our conversation wasn't just his history of leadership -- it was his humility, his grounded wisdom, and his deep love for the men and women he served. 

My key takeaways from our conversation: 

1. Understand the real question.

I asked General Grass how he became the highest-ranking member of the National Guard -- beating out more than 450,000 soldiers -- and he didn't mention ambition, politics, or titles. He said: "I understood what the question (or the problem) really was." In leadership, that kind of clarity is rare. It's not just about knowing the answer -- it's about understanding what truly needs to be solved. 

2. Build your leadership from the inside out.

Even as a four-star general, he told me that he never stopped learning. Leadership isn't a destination. It's a lifelong commitment to growth, reflection, and service. 

3. Character over chaos.

From natural disasters to geopolitical tension, he emphasized this: "When everything is urgent, character is your compass." 

4. Lead by example -- in all areas of life.

During his time at the Pentagon he prioritized working out, reading, time with family, and going to Mass. Why? "It was a chance to set an example for the staff," he said. Even amid the highest achievements, daily habits matter.